I took a chance.
I admit that.
I deliberately broke the rules.
Me, the married guy,
Choosing to sit with her,
The divorced woman.
Everybody knows,
You don’t do that.
I took a chance
To show a friend
How I felt.
What I felt.
About her.
I deliberately broke the rules.
I knew it then.
I understood the risk.
I’ve never been
Much of one
For the rules of life
I see people following.
I suppose it’s because
I’ve seen how those rules
Rip out a person’s heart,
And burn their soul
To ash.
Then I broke one more rule
On that Sunday morning.
I actually put my hand
On one of hers.
I’d say I walked her to her car.
Because that’s what I did.
But I can always claim
I had no real choice.
Her car was between
The church’s doors,
And mine.
There are those that would declare
I knew what I was doing
When I parked where I did.
I can only shake my head.
And wonder.
Will any of them learn?
Will any of them ever change?
Will any of them
Begin to grow again?
Or are they done?
And I know
From the way my heart aches,
And the tears of my soul,
I know.
They never will.
They’re done.
They’re where they want to be.
They’re where they’re safe.
Where they’re secure.
And there,
They choose to stay.
It saddens me to know
She’s that same way.
Unable to acknowledge
What her heart tells her.
She lets no one in.
No one close.
To protect herself.
From pain.
I can understand that.
I really can.
I’ve been hurt myself,
Time and time again.
But that’s all it is.
Hurt,
And pain.
Like when you make that mistake
At the oven now and then
And stand there staring
At your bright red fingertips
As the blisters grow on them
Again.
It happens.
Even the best fall
Every now and then.
Like the time the favorite
For the gold medal
At the Olympics
Never reached the end
Of the race
He was in.
It happens.
I know how badly
She’s been hurt
By events in life.
The one that left her
On her own.
With their daughter.
She raised their child
On her own.
The way people talk
About those women.
You know the kind I mean.
The divorced ones.
Looking for another man.
The ones that might just settle
For a fling.
People are so ready
To believe
Lies and gossip are the truth
When they don’t understand
Something.
It was on the day
She spoke those words to me.
Told me she had an image
She had to maintain.
So people wouldn’t see things
The wrong way.
Wouldn’t say things about her
Behind her back.
She had a reputation
To uphold.
In a church.
Of all things.
It was on that day
I knew.
My days there
Were nearly through.
And the time had come
For me to stand
And walk away.
For I will not live my life
Afraid
Of what the blind,
The ignorant,
The ones afraid of life,
Will say.
Will I get hurt again?
Hell, yes.
I will.
It’s part of life.
Like love,
And laughter,
Tears,
And pain.
You aren’t alive
If you can’t be hurt.
You’re simply hiding.
In a cave.
In a box.
In a little space.
Where all there is to life
Is what’s around you,
What’s in your room.
So you live isolated.
Hidden from the world.
But safe.
The saddest part of all
To me?
She doesn’t know
She lives that way.
No one in those rooms,
Hiding where it’s safe,
Knows at all.
Because nothing they’re afraid of
Gets within those walls.
Nothing can ever change.
I turned and walked away.
Never to return
To that church.
To her world.
But to this day.
And through my life.
If she should ever call,
And ask for any help from me
At all.
I’ll find a way.
Because to me,
She was
And is
My friend.
And my friend
She always will be.
Even thought
She doesn’t know.